This reflection covers three patterns in close relationships: worry about distance, handling things alone and repairing after conflict. Answer about a partner, close friend or family member; results show the closest pattern in this sitting.
What this test looks at
Closeness worry · 6 statements
Keeping distance · 6 statements
Repair after things go wrong · 6 statements
Time
6 minutes
Questions
18
Result
a score for each pattern
Time frame
Answer for your close relationships over the last year or so, not for one hard month.
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Use the result
What this test adds
Three separate scores show closeness worry, pulling back and repair as distinct relationship patterns.
A small next step
When worry or the urge to pull back appears this week, note what happened, what you did and how the other person responded.
Questions people ask
What does an attachment style test actually measure?
It summarizes your answers about closeness worry, handling things alone and repair after conflict. Consider the people and situations you had in mind.
Is this the same as the four attachment styles I have read about?
Some frameworks name secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised categories; the APA Dictionary uses dismissive, fearful, preoccupied and secure. This quiz reports three patterns separately.
Can an attachment style change?
Public health and university explainers describe attachment patterns as changeable and dependent on relationships and circumstances.
Can I use this to work out my partner's attachment style?
No. Every question asks about your own reactions, and answering on someone else's behalf tells you about your view of them rather than about them.
Are my answers saved anywhere?
No. The questions are free to take, and you do not need an account. Your answers and your result stay in this browser tab and are gone when you close or reset it.
